The Gluten-Free Diet and Your Celiac Child - How to Socialize Safely

After your child is diagnosed with Celiac disease,Speak to each person directly or write a letter,
you and your family might feel like you'll never bewith your child's photo on it.
able to socialize, travel or eat out normally everIt's important that everyone knows about your
again. As a parent, being responsible for keepingchild's gluten-free diet, for various reasons. It's also
your child healthy and on a gluten-free diet is aimportant to make sure your child has bathroom
stressful thing at first. There are many T's toprivileges as well, especially if they are in the initial
cross and I's to dot in terms of making sure yourhealing phase where potty problems still exist.
child avoids gluten. It is totally normal to feelMake sure your teacher lets them know that
overwhelmed at first, and to feel safer at homethey can go to the bathroom whenever they
where you are in complete control. But over timewant, instead of trying to "hold it" which may be
it gets easier. Really. With learning and experience,impossible for them. Last but not least, consider
families are able to go to restaurants, parties,purchasing extra copies of children's books about
travel - do pretty much anything. It is veryCeliac disease, and donate them to your school's
important to be sensible about the whole thinglibrary to increase awareness. And why not lend
and to let your child socialize normally.books to your child's teacher to read to the
The Gluten-Free (G-F) Diet:whole class, or visit the class and read it to them
After diagnosis, find the best way to help youryourself, along with other teaching tools.
child accept the fact that there are certain foodsSchool birthday parties:
that he or she cannot eat. The book, "Mommy,Option 1: Send a letter to all class parents to
What is Celiac Disease?" puts the focus on whatinform them of your child's dietary restrictions and
the child can still eat, as opposed to what sheask them to please let you know when they are
now cannot. Try to keep that focus going.bringing in treats for the class, so that you may
Attitudes of parents, siblings, friends and relativesbring something comparable for your child.
will be important as well. It will be much easier forOption 2: Work something out with the teacher
the child - now and later in life - if familywhere she makes sure parents give her notice
members and friends can accept celiac diseasebefore allowing treats to be brought in, so that
and the gluten-free (G-F) diet as a way of life.she can, in turn, give you the notice you need.
Truth be told: the gluten free diet is for life, 24/7.Keep a bag of treats at school in case something
To a certain degree, you must change the wayfalls through and you are not alerted. If she
you interact with food, some of the places youcomes home saying someone brought a treat
visit, and the way you approach some of life. But,and she had to have something from her bag,
when faced with a positive attitude, there is hopekeep all talk positive with your child. Say
and encouragement for those who make thissomething like, "Oh, good, I'm glad you were able
commitment. Remember that you are not alone.to do that, and that we had extra treats there
Once you get used to it, the gluten-free dietfor you!" Be proactive with the teacher if she is
becomes very manageable. Your child can stillnot keeping her end of the plan. Keep a few
enjoy most of her favorite types of food. Youpre-made frosted cupcakes or brownies in the
just need to make a few minor adjustments tofreezer so you are always prepared. Add
the ingredients. You do need take a fewsprinkles the morning of when the cupcake is
precautions, and become an avid label-reader. Withbeing sent in so the top looks fresh and different
practice and time, screening for gluten becomesevery time.
second nature. It may take a while to find a safePizza parties:
version of all their favorite foods, as you areKids' parties often include pizza. Make a pizza
learning about what is safe and what is not. Beahead of time (or cook a frozen one) and send in
patient with yourself.a few slices for your child. Consider helping to plan
Restaurants:certain school parties and see if you could do
Don't feel like you can't eat out. Getting a G-Fsomething different like hardshell corn tacos or
meal in most restaurants is usually not thatnachos instead.
difficult. Staple choices include fruits, grilled meats,Let your child choose:
vegetables, salads, eggs, and potatoes. Check outWhen your young child is invited to a party, talk
web resources to find restaurants withto the parent when you RSVP, asking which
gluten-free menus. Some chains that we frequentfoods will be served so that you may bring
are: Uno Chicago Grill, Chilis, Chipotle, Bonefish Grillsomething comparable for your child that is G-F.
and Outback Steakhouse. If you go to aAs your child gets older, sometimes he or she
restaurant that doesn't have its own G-F menu,may want to eat something at home before
stick to basics like grilled chicken over a salad, orgoing out to a social event. You might find that a
a burger made without a bun. We sometimesperson or people make it uncomfortable for your
bring our own salad dressings and extras likechild to bring her own food. Try to make them
slivered almonds or G-F croutons. Generally,feel proud of themselves and to feel lucky that
french fries are NOT considered gluten-free atthey know they have CD. Try to get your child
restaurants. In and of themselves they usually aretalking about it, and make sure that you keep the
G-F, but unfortunately, they share a deep fryertalk as positive as possible. Let it be your child's
with foods like chicken fingers, which are breaded.choice as to whether she wants to eat something
Therefore the french fries becomebeforehand and sit empty-handed when everyone
gluten-contaminated. Instead, let your child enjoyelse is eating pizza and cake, or if they'd like to
a treat of oven-baked french fries at home oncebring pizza and a cupcake. As hard as it is to think
in a while.of your child going to a social event and not being
Check out the restaurant BEFORE you go there.able to eat while there, the most important thing
See if they have an online menu or food allergenis ownership of the diet. Support them by telling
listings. Call and speak with the manager. Do youryour child that whatever works for them is fine
homework so you can enjoy the restaurantwith you.
experience once you get there. When you tell theHolidays:
waitress your need for a G-F meal for your child,Easter & Halloween: Let your child "trade in" all
do it discreetly so the child doesn't feel like she's insuspect candy (often there are no ingredient
the spotlight, and don't make a huge deal out of it.labels on candy and it is NOT okay to just guess)
You want your family to feel as normal asfor gluten-free candy after all their loot is
possible.collected. Same goes for pinata candy and goodie
Teach your child to become self-sufficient bybags.
helping him learn how to make wise menu choices.Thanksgiving & Easter meals:
Try to focus on all the things that your child canRemember that you cannot stuff a turkey with
have instead of crossing off all the things whichgluten-containing bread and safely serve a slice to
he can't have. Help your child come up with menuyour child. It will be contaminated. Prepare the
cards for frequently visited restaurants. Includestuffing separately and use gluten-free bread.
the name of each restaurant and a list of a few(See our recipe section for an incredible stuffing
good food choices for him to alternate between.recipe.) Or make an alternative to stuffing such as
Have him bring them along when he eats out, andrice, G-F cornbread, or G-F dinner rolls. Delicious
this will give him a feeling of independence insteadG-F gravy can be prepared with cornstarch and
of feeling like he needs mom and dad to navigatepan drippings rather than wheat flour.
the menu for him. Of course, this level ofAppetizers:
independence will take time and experience, but itMake sure family members know that cheeses
is a good goal to strive for.should be kept on one tray and crackers on
School tips:another. Provide your child with G-F crackers and
Write a letter to your child's teacher explainingkeep them separate. Our families still bring regular
Celiac disease and what it means for your child.crackers but everyone makes a conscious effort
Or meet with her in person to discuss it. Giveto keep things separate. As far as dips go, you
them printed literature about CD and a list ofmust make sure there are spoons in every dip
acceptable foods. Make sure she e-mails youand ask people to spoon dip onto their own plates
about any questionable foods they might bebefore dipping crackers into it. Always keep G-F
arranging for snacks, and that she gives you atortilla chips around for safe dipping. Make sure
few days notice for birthday parties and specialyour child knows which Doritos, etc. are G-F and
occasions for which you'll need to send your childwhich are not, or to ask you, instead of guessing.
a G-F substitute. Send in a bag of G-F treats forIn conclusion, you can confidently navigate your
those times when parents send in treatsCeliac child's way through a gluten world. As a
unannounced, so your child will always haveparent, please be sure to form a network of
something for herself. And write a letter to thesupport around your child, and encourage
school office, too, so they can put it into youreveryone in your child's life to speak and act
child's official records. Make sure that the schoolpositively about the gluten-free diet. It will make a
nurse and cafeteria monitors are informed as well.world of difference!